According to prostitution prohibitionists, prostitutes are victims of violence at the hands of their clients and pimps. We are told that prostitution is "like rape." For this reason, they tell us, we need to increase the penalties for those who engage in sex trafficking- sentencing the perpetrators to decades behind bars. Even if the clients are non violent and non abusive, they must still be punished, say the politicians, members of the clergy, the media and the radical feminists whose unsupported theories have become the basis for laws which are aimed at 'ending the demand' for prostitutes. It is all about the violence, they claim. "We must protect the poor exploited victims of sex trafficking... even if the victim claims not to be a victim..." say these proponents of the abolition of all prostitution. But what happens when real victims of domestic violence and spousal abuse - women who have gone to the police for help, have asked the courts to impose punishment on their violent husbands or boyfriends? Well, if the accused or convicted batterer is a well known movie star or, say, a boxing champion upon whom the livelihood of many other people depend, chances are good that the punishment meted out to such an individual will be postponed in order for the potential millions of dollars expected to be generated by an upcoming fight to be made before the sentence is imposed. What does this say to the victim? That justice for you is not nearly as important as raking in a bunch of money for your abuser and the businesses which make money from his activity?
Floyd Mayweather Jr. is a convicted batterer of the mother of his children and is also a boxing champ in Las Vegas who was supposed to begin serving a 90-day jail sentence on January 6th, 2012, for domestic violence but his attorneys argued his way out of it. The fight is scheduled for May, 2012, which means that the 90 day sentence could have been served and be behind him long before the scheduled fight. In December 20111, Mayweather pleaded guilty to a charge of battery and two counts of harassment. He was arrested in September 2010 after he punched the mother of his children at his home. According to an arrest report, Mayweather threatened Josie Harris, saying, "I'm going to kill you and the man you are messing around with." If Mayweather had been a pimp instead of a boxer, not only would his sentence NOT be postponed, but any money he made from his 'hos would be confiscated and he would be pilloried for exploiting them for money in the first place. Making money from the sale of sexual services is evil... but making money from the sale of legal violence (boxing) is not only encouraged but deeply engrained in our culture. There are many ancillary businesses which benefit from the exhibition of such legal violence. How ironic is that? You can beat people up for money but you can't give them pleasure for money. Selling pleasure 'exploits' those who sell it- selling pain and legal violence is so important that a judge is willing to postpone the punishment of an admitted batterer of a woman to accommodate him.
No wonder there is so much domestic violence in society... just how much domestic violence is there? Glad you asked! For anyone who feigns concern over the 'violence' associated with prostitution and promotes the abolition thereof in order to 'stop the violence,' the November 2011 Summary Report from the CDC (US Government) which covers 2010's survey of intimate partner violence throughout the United States must be an absolute nightmare. How could anyone who held the position that the harm done to prostitutes by the violence they encounter necessitates the eradication of prostitution in all its forms- not then be forced to conclude that perhaps we must also ban marriage and other intimate relationships for the same reason? And yet, so far there hasn't been a peep from those hypocrites. Please visit the page which lists the most violent relationships of all- those of law enforcement agents who have a terrible track record of domestic violence and murder- suicide... and then tell me again how violent it is for prostitutes?
"On average, 24 people per minute are victims of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in the United States, based on a survey conducted in 2010. Over the course of a year, that equals more than 12 million women and men. Those numbers only tell part of the story—more than 1 million women are raped in a year and over 6 million women and men are victims of stalking in a year. These findings emphasize that sexual violence, stalking, and intimate partner violence are important and widespread public health problems in the United States."
Interestingly, nowhere in this document does it mention prostitutes or prostitution, which is allegedly rife with violence at the hands of pimps and clients.
The report can be found here:
News media reports on this document:
There is even more domestic violence in families of law enforcement officers than in the general population. You can read more about that here:
INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE BY LAW ENFORCEMENT AGENTS- O.I.I.P.V.
and here: Police domestic violence nearly twice average rate (San Francisco Chronicle January 15, 2012)
More links and resources: http://intimateviolencedeathnews.blogspot.com/
After reading these blogs, you will know that marriage is far more violent than sex work ever could be!
another resource for information on domestic violence: FAILURE TO ARREST: A PILOT STUDY OF POLICE RESPONSE TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN RURAL ILLINOIS
DISCLAIMER: Although I am pointing out the horrors associated with far too many marriages and intimate relationships, I am by no means anti- relationship. I have been with my husband Victor for nearly 36 years and during that time, I have never once experienced domestic violence or abuse. Victor has been the most loving, thoughtful, gentle-man I have ever known. I am more in love with him now than when we started out on our journey together- and often wish that he could instruct other men on how to be like him. There would be far fewer divorces or unhappy marriages and certainly no violence. He is now disabled and I am his caregiver- and because of the way he treated me throughout our years together, it is an honor and a privilege to take care of him. I am the most fortunate of women to have met and loved this man and to have his love. It distresses me terribly that so many couples out there cannot find the kind of love and intimacy that we found with each other, and that so many men and women experience violence at the hands of someone who is supposed to love them.
However, despite the millions of people who have encountered violence within their relationships, I believe that the majority of couples do not experience any violence whatsoever. They may or may not share the kind of love that Victor and I are fortunate enough to share, but neither do they experience the harmful, horrific, destructive abuse that seems to be so pervasive in society. And the same is true for sex workers. The majority of us have not experienced the abuse and violence that the prohibitionists are far too eager to impose on us and insist that we do experience with every client and so called pimps.
When women (or men) experience intimate partner violence within marriage, there is no crusade to abolish all marriage to protect women from potential abuse from their partner... why is it then that when sex workers experience violence (primarily because they are outside the protection of the law and cannot go to the police to file a complaint) religious conservatives and radical feminists and their liberal politician minions insist that the best way to protect us is to further criminalize our work? To arrest us and publish our names, addresses and photos in the newspapers- print and online? Or to suggest that our non violent, non abusive clients should be arrested and punished while the millions of perpetrators of intimate partner violence- including law enforcement officers- are not arrested or punished in any way?